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From an article by Parenting for Faith

How do we help our children with change, whether that's leaving home, a new school, new house or new member of the family? Growing up inevitably involves change but sometimes we don't find it easy to manage. Here are some ideas to help you and your child journey through a transition together, whether that’s starting work, moving schools, moving house or another change of circumstances.

1. Prepare yourself
Even if the change or transition primarily affects the child, you need to prepare yourself that there may be some unusual or more challenging behaviour as they work through it and that can be tough on you. They might sail through it, which is wonderful but if they don't that's very normal too and you need to make sure you're getting the support you need. You could try chatting to God about how you’re doing and getting some friends lined up to pray especially around key dates.

2. Prepare your child
Let them know in advance that it is okay to find transition difficult. Be open and start the conversation early if you can. You could create a window into your life by sharing about a transition you’ve experienced, how you felt and how you managed it. You could also use examples of friends and family or Biblical characters who experienced change.

Make sure they know what is going to happen. Younger children or those with additional needs might benefit from a visual timetable or pictures or steps that they can look at. For teens leaving home, you might want to decide together in advance how long you'll stay when you drop them off or how long it'll be before they make a trip home.

3. Reassure them of what is the same
In the midst of change, it can be really comforting to remember what isn’t changing. This can be the big things, like how much you love them and also the smaller practical details, like that someone will still always be there to collect them or that they can call home whenever they need to.

Don’t forget to share that God is with them always and that He never changes. Ask God to give them a picture, word or Bible verse to remind them that He’s there.

Also, for the things that you have control over, try to keep to the usual routine as much as possible. So if school’s all new, now probably isn’t a great time to swap bedrooms and push their dinner an hour later. 

4. Stay connected
Keep them connected to you, to God and to home. Whether that’s allowing them to take a comfort blanket, photo or favourite teddy in their bag, a post it in their lunchbox or a quick midday text. If they've left home, pop a card in the post and arrange a visit or a set time that you'll call. Remind them that you’re there and that you care.

Give them plenty of opportunities to tell you how they’re feeling. Help them share with God how they’re doing too. Don't forget you can do this over skype or a phone call, prayer doesn't have to be in person.

And remember, change is inevitable. As you walk through this transition with them, you’re not only helping them with what they’re facing right now but you’re giving them tools and skills for tackling other changes and transitions that’ll happen throughout their life.

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From an article by Parenting for Faith, 14/08/2019

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